With the holidays coming up, one would assume that it would be a time of relaxation and fun for everyone. If you don’t feel as joyous as the Christmas carols that are playing in the shops don’t feel alone. Many people are experiencing a lot of financial stress this time of the year, they just don’t always talk about it.
If you can’t afford to go on the trip overseas or treat your family with a summer holiday or spoil your partner with a special dinner, it’s normal. Don’t allow your feelings of inadequacy or feeling like a failure take away the one special gift that only you can give – you. Don’t allow your financial stress to overwhelm you in a way that you can’t be present to yourself and those you love.
In my own life I’ve experienced different types of financial stress and witnessed loved ones go through periods of severe financial uncertainty. I’m not out of the woods yet but what I’ve learned is that money can’t buy everything. Yes, money can buy peace of mind and lovely holidays and lots of things we enjoy doing. But money can only control you if you allow it to. You can decide if financial stress is going to rob you of you. You will be surprised of the abundance of support that is ready to surround you if you allow yourself to be vulnerable and open to it.
Money can also not buy time or take it away. It remains your choice as how you want to use your time. I urge you to use it to reconnect with yourself and deepen your relationship with others. It does not cost anything. It only asks that you slow down and be present. Use this holiday to take long walks in nature and listen to the wisdom that it has to offer.
You may feel disappointed or bored by the idea of staying at home during the festive season. You may be thinking ‘what can be worse?’ What is worst is if you moan through it and focus your attention on everything you don’t have. I would like to invite you to focus on the things you do have. Even if it is just you! How can you view this festive season as an opportunity to be creative, on how to have fun and connect with others by spending the least money? I’m certainly going to try.
Learning: You can decide if financial stress is going to rob you of you.
Healing question: How can you not allow your financial stress to overwhelm you in a way that you can’t be present to yourself and those you love?