Letting go

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How easy is it for you to let go? To let go of how you think things should work out? How your career should unfold? How you think your family should behave?

This past year I became more aware how difficult it is for others and me to let go of things. We tend to hold on to our plans, ideas, thoughts, and ways. It is usually the holding on that causes us the most suffering and keeps us stuck. A trapeze artist cannot swing from one bar to another without letting go

An important part of preparing for the New Year is to review the past year—to let it go—and to learn from it. In order to embrace the new, we must release the old. When you let go of something it does not mean that you give up. It only means that you are not attached to the outcome.

I want to challenge you to take some time during the holiday season and reflect on the following questions:

  1. What causes me to hold onto things?
  2. What might change if I let go more often?

Decide to let go of one thing that does not serve you any more (e.g. letting you feel joy, ease and true happiness). Do something practical as a symbol of this letting go. You can write it on a stone and throw it into the water or write it on a piece of paper and tear the paper up. After you have done( this exercise open your hand, look at your palm and see that there is nothing, the stone or paper is gone. You let go of something that you can’t control or change.

In the end, only three things matter:

How much you loved,

How gently you lived,

And how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. (Buddha)

 

 

Gratitude

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The beautiful quote about gratitude by Melodie Beattie inspired today’s blog. She said:

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity…. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.

After reading the quote I started to reflect on what I’m grateful for. I realized that I don’t spend enough time being grateful for all that is good in my life. We tend to focus on the obstacles, difficulties and things that are not working out as we planned. Instead of focusing our energy to give thanks.

When we say ‘thank you’ we let the other person know that we appreciate him or her, that what they did was good enough. This gesture connects people. It creates a positive energy that motivates us to be kinder, happier and more forgiving to others (and ourselves).

What are you grateful for? I want to challenge you to take some time this week to write down the things that you are grateful for and to express gratitude to others.